One might say that I am a hoarder. There is a slight truth to this. I listened very carefully to my grandmother’s stories of deprivation during the Great Depression. Laura Ingalls Wilder’s stories of scarcity also impacted my worldview, not to mention Apocalyptic fiction.
Readers may, however, recall that one of my memory verses for my pilgrimage in 2014 was to “travel lightly”. I STILL have not achieved this but continue to work at it. The garage cleaning in Arkansas, my home/not home, is underway and the pile for the Salvation Army is growing. I am channeling my mother and taking no prisoners. Out it goes!
Having said that, I have toted around the globe lots of old correspondence. Whilst rifling through a box of letters, I came across these concluding paragraphs in a letter from my mother Sally, written July 29, 1992 to me and my sisters. I am sharing it with you so you can share with your daughters too. I am almost the age my mother was when she wrote this letter. I don’t think I’ll be able to catch up to her on the wisdom front.
“I would like to say that I have found the secret of getting my act together. But I have always found that just when I smell the sweet smell of success, splat the rules have changed. LIfe is a quilt of patches and they all go into the whole. I am not looking forward to the patches of elderly poor health or widowhood. I guess you will have to help me with that.
My little piece of advice:
Cook dinner, pick up the living room, have a spiritual life (you girls are probably praying more than you think you are, have a sense of humor, don’t nag, forget trying to change your spouse, don’t let your spouse brow beat you. Slovenliness is bad. Talk [during] your dinner. Do something creative. Exercise. If your spouse balances the check book, leave the house. Shit will happen. Big shit will happen. If you feel too bad call a friend and ask for help. Call a sister and ask for help. Know that the shit will more than likely make you stronger. Remember you are special, but you are no better than anyone else. Also remember that getting through hard times together does strengthen your marital relationship. Don’t forget the good things husbands do for you. Find your own friends. I think that Is it. Oh yes, eat five vegetables and fruits daily.
I love you girls so much.
Good bye dear hearts,
Now it that isn’t the truth, I don’t know what is.