A cheater post. An article shared by Mrs. NATO on the grieving process. Today, for a variety of reasons, it became apparent that many people can benefit from this interview in The Guardian of British psychotherapist Julia Samuel, if they are brave enough to read it. Dr. Samuel was discussing her new book, Grief Works. Among other things, it tells one how to behave in the presence of someone else’s grief. It illuminated how short of the mark I have fallen when others have lost an enormously special person in their lives. Consider this a primer on compassionate consideration of others – what to do, what to say. I am pointing the finger at myself, FYI. Sally would want me to do some self-examination. Print it out and put it next to the obituary you have written about yourself.
So when I fell apart during yoga class this morning, in the savasana (corpse) pose no less, to the accompanying acoustic rendition by Lotte Kestner of Beyonce’s Halo, I let the grief just roll out of me. I recovered, my face red, puffy, and sweaty. Then I got in the car and fell apart ten minutes later to Luke Bryan‘s song Fast. Listen and weep on iTunes.
Later in the day, Thing 1 told me about meeting physician and author Dr. Atul Gawande at a talk he was giving today at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. Dr. Gawande wrote the most important book I read last year, Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters Most in the End. Thing 1 was starstruck, gobsmacked, and tongue tied. Dr. Gawande spoke on the topic of Generalists vs. Specialists in the medical profession. His case study was a man who had lived with a 40 year migraine which was eventually healed. CAN YOU IMAGINE??? Amen and amen. Nine months was more than enough for all of us. Yet Sally and the Holy Spirit were working overtime to bring Thing 1 a message of love, hope, and purpose. Can’t you see Sally’s halo shining?
Mama said there’d be days like this.