Yesterday the good people of Serviço Social Nova Jerusalem came to pick up bags of clothes, Christmas decorations, and our freezer. On a holiday no less. I did not think they would get it all in the van and the VW Gol but they did.
As they drove away I wondered why it is that we are not giving them new stuff? Were the items even used in the first place or are they sad things with no life left in them? Somehow, the one new outfit given to the kids at Christmas doesn’t cut it. But then again, what is more important, giving them a playground, milk or new stuff? Maybe Heidi, My SIL’s Virtual Twin, Katpat, and Gamamae can sort that Gordian knot out for me.
There hasn’t been, to me, a satisfactory answer to the birthday candle question. Perhaps I thought I might need waxy gems in a pinch, just in case someone over the age of 13 was eating a birthday cake at our house? We usually celebrate Mr. Understanding’s birthday in the US so that cannot be the reason. When I cleaned out my cake decorating/party junk box, there were 4 new, perfectly good boxes of birthday candles. The burned birthday cake candles went directly to the rubbish bin but I know at least one reader is secretly condemning me for not rebirthing them in China. Another reader is probably secretly condemning me for having saved crappy candles for 3 years (there were a lot of #5 and #7 candles, evidence of the average used birthday candle shelf-life). This is what happens when you share the contents of one’s pantry.
The last person who made me a birthday cake with candles was Martita for my 35th birthday. That was when I lived in Mexico. It was a delicious pumpkin cheesecake. She even used her graham cracker crumbs on me, not to mention the two boxes of candles. She put rosemary sprigs, symbolizing friendship, on the napkins and gave me 5 framed photos she took of Mexican scenes. In the midst of a family crisis (mine), Martita pullled out all the stops for me. There are some kindnesses you just can’t repay.
Yesterday was Martita‘s birthday. Today is her daughter Sarah‘s. They will be riding roller coasters in Mexico City to celebrate. Baby Samuel, born in Brasil, is two today in Canada and Becca is seven in Baltimore today. June 8 is a popular day to be born – Labor Day weekend love the year before?*
My advice to you all this year: throw away all the candles after the parties and take lots of pictures instead. Cleaning out the pantry is painful.
* If I can figure out how to work the blog, I will be adding a birthday calendar for reference purposes so that people know when to plan birthday lunches for their friends or remember to send them a birthday email.